What made me the person I am today

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This post is part of “Because Prompts are Fun” hosting by Tales from the Nursery and iNeed a Playdate.

I love to think that I’m not like every other mom blogger out there but I do fit into the bunch. Everyone has their own unique story whether they tell it or not. I know I’ve touched on having a large family but I don’t really talk about my family much since we don’t all live in the same city. So here we go:

People have asked me why my tagline says “Tidbits of life into a bi-racial family” and even though I feel like I shouldn’t have to explain.. I mean look at my picture… but it goes deeper than that. I am the second oldest of a large and odd family. I say odd because I don’t have any full brothers or sisters. Every single one is a half or step. I am the closest with my mom’s kids. She had 5 including me and I’m the second oldest. We all see ourselves as one family and always have, because our lives were never that easy. Outside of them, I have a half brother (with my dad) and 5 step sisters. I say that I have 11 brothers and sister though because when I was about 12 or 13, my step brother died of cancer. He was 5 at the time.

I also grew up not really knowing my father. I didn’t actually meet him until I was about 10. Backstory: My mom was married when I was born so I got her husband’s last name. They went through a divorce and when custody got banged out, he got custody of me. I found out in the 5th grade that he wasn’t my father and was introduced to my biological father a week later. Yes, finding this out did change my life completely but I don’t regret finding out at this stage in life. Plus, I know it was hard for me but there is no telling how hard it was for my mom to decide when to tell me.

diverse family

This happens to be the last family photo we’ve taken (I think) of my mom’s side of the family. Over 6 years ago. Yeah the little boy in the front is now 18. Don’t ask me how that happened! 

Anyway, since I grew up in a very diverse family, I wasn’t afraid to date outside my race. So that hunk of man in my header is who won my heart. I wear the “bi-racial” family badge with honor, regardless of what anyone says. Its not just part of my family, but part of my history.

I am in the process of changing my tagline to fit my blog but I wanted to explain it before it changes.


  1. says

    Wow! That would be quite a shock in 5th grade hearing your Dad wasn’t your father and then meeting your biological one.

    I under the halfsiblings. I have a half brother and sister they are both 18-21 years older than me so it was/is odd as well.

    You, your husband, and kids look like a great happy family!

  2. says

    What an amazing life story! And, I admire your positive outlook. Many others would have been bitter and angry and I must admit I may be one if I was in your shoes.

  3. Tahlia B. says

    Nobody needs to say anything about your family, they’re yours and made you who you are. There, I had to get that out before I said anything else! lol

    When I tell people I have 5 siblings people also assume I had a big family growing up and it’s complicated for people to process when I ellaborate, but all of them are half – 2 from mom (they have the same dad) and 3 from dad (two moms). My parents were married when I was born so I got his name, but divorced before my first birthday. He wasn’t a big part of my life either.

    Anyhow, it is nice to ‘meet’ you and your beautiful family. :)

  4. says

    I have a half brother and a step sister. I’ve never lived with either of them, so it’s a bit more like having cousins than siblings!

  5. says

    I always like knowing more about people. I have to imagine this wasn’t the easiest thing to share, so thanks for doing so!

  6. Bonnie says

    Such a strong and well rounded family is exactly what I see upon glancing at your family photo. Every one has a past. We just can’t let the past dictate who we become.

  7. says

    Thank you for sharing your story. What a powerful story really and one that I am sure couldn’t be easy to share at first. I love seeing that you will wear the badge proudly and hope that it encourages others as well.

  8. says

    Yay to understanding half siblings! I don’t have any full ones either. 3 half sisters from my dad and 3 from my mom…lived with none. It’s weird how it can play out. I’m also close to the ones from my mom, but the other ones are more like distant cousins.

    Loved hearing more about you!

  9. says

    I was adopted when I was young. My parents are white and I’m Korean so dating outside my race (there were only a handful of other Asian kids in my town) was to be accepted! I love that bi-racial families are so common.

  10. says

    That would be crazy finding out your world was not as it seemed in the 5th grade! That’s the beginning of such a tumultuous age anyway! It looks like your large family has made you into the wonderful person you are today.