If there is one thing that we’ve all learned in the last decade, it’s that we all suck at asking for help when we’re struggling. Perhaps it’s because we were raised by a Boomer generation who always taught us to be independent and figure things out for ourselves. The problem with that is that no one told us all it’s not a flaw to struggle and that asking for help is okay. No one said that when the proverbial hits the fan, we don’t have to drown. They create lifebelts for a reason, so why learn to swim alone when you could always be secure in the backup option of help?
Instead of thinking that you have to go through everything in life alone, you can reach up and ask for a hand when you need it, and sometimes, you really do need it! Let go of the rules that you must do everything on your own and suffer in silence. There is no more suffering in silence. Whether you need help with an appointment for a Sunshine Behavioral Health Non-Faith Based program, or you simply need help with booking a regular doctor appointment, you can ask for help. Help is not weak. Help is not out of reach of you until you’ve tried everything – you don’t have to wait. You can just ask. Here are five reasons you should.
- You’ll be more accessible to others. When you put that shield around you to say that no one can help you, you are closing off a part of yourself to those who want to reach out. You can ask for help and show that yes, you are vulnerable, too. This allows you to reconnect with others in your life, which is exactly what you need.
- Don’t ask, don’t get. Anytime you don’t ask a question, the answer is always going to be no. If you are desperate for help and you don’t ask for it, how is anyone going to know what you need? There are people around you who would be more than happy to help you in your time of need, but you have to ask first.
- It can feel good. When you share your problem, someone else is on the case with you and that can mean that you feel good for it. It’s a sheer relief to know that you are finally speaking up and the weight of your feelings is being considered and is off your shoulders at last. This is going to make life feel far more rewarding, and you’ll be more inclined to share any problems again in the future.
- You’ll get what you want. If you have tried to solve a problem yourself and it hasn’t worked, then asking for help is the next best thing that you can do. If you want to be all independent, confused and alone, you can – but you won’t get anywhere with it. Instead of feeling like that, just ask for someone to help you. You’ll feel so much happier for it when you do.
- You’ll help others. Paying it forward has a lot to be said for it, and you’ll be more confident to do this when you are asking for help from other people and getting it.